Enneagram Type Seven
The Busy, Fun-Loving Type:
Spontaneous, Versatile, Acquisitive, and Scattered
Basic Fear: Of being deprived and in pain
Basic Desire: To be satisfied and content — to have their needs
Enneagram Seven with a Six-Wing: "The Entertainer"
Enneagram Seven with an Eight-Wing: "The Realist"
Type Sevens are the people who teach the rest of us the meaning of "joie de
vivre," the joy of being alive. Sevens are generally energetic
and optimistic people with an enormous capacity for experiencing all the
variety life has to offer. They don't ever want to be bored, and if a
relationship, a job, or any situation or experience becomes dull or tedious,
just not fun anymore, they are inclined to smile and wave goodbye, riding
off into the sunset certain that something more interesting is just around
Without having to try very hard, Sevens
seem always to be on the cutting edge, drawn by their love of new
experiences. They like to plan for the future: a trip, a project, creating
innovative ways to solve problems.
Early in life, Sevens figured out that the
people around them were not going to be able to stimulate and nurture them
as much as they needed. They set out, often unconsciously, to fill in the
gaps -- living large, on the lookout for relationships and experiences that
would satisfy their deep need to be connected. Their tendency is to go after
what they want and sometimes they have to learn to wait and be patient
without pouting or panicking. They have to accept that the power they feel
through their anger doesn't always get them where they most want to be and
that their true challenge is to learn the art of being vulnerable. Instead
of being impulsive, saying or doing whatever appeals to them in the moment,
Sevens learn to also be quiet and enjoy what only comes from going deep.
Robin Williams, Goldie Hawn, Scarlett O'Hara, Howard Stern, John F. Kennedy,
for Enneagram Type Sevens
- Recognize your impulsiveness, and get in the habit of observing your
impulses rather than giving in to them. This means letting most of your
impulses pass and becoming a better judge of which ones are worth acting
on. The more you can resist acting out your impulses, the more you will
be able to focus on what is really good for you.
- Learn to listen to other people. They are often interesting, and you
may learn things that will open new doors for you. Also learn to
appreciate silence and solitude: you do not have to distract yourself
(and protect yourself from anxiety) with constant noise from the
television or the stereo. By learning to live with less external
stimulation, you will learn to trust yourself. You will be happier than
you expect because you will be satisfied with whatever you do, even if
it is less than you have been doing.
- You do not have to have everything this very moment. That tempting new
acquisition will most likely still be available tomorrow (this is
certainly true of food, alcohol, and other common gratifications—that
ice cream cone, for instance). Most good opportunities will come back
again—and you will be in a better position to discern which
opportunities really are best for you.
- Always choose quality over quantity, especially in your experiences.
The ability to have experiences of quality can be learned only by giving
your full attention to the experience you are having now. If you
keep anticipating future experiences, you will keep missing the present
one and undermine the possibility of ever being satisfied.
- Make sure that what you want will really be good for you in the long
run. As the saying goes, watch what you pray for since your prayers may
be answered. In the same vein, think about the long-term consequences of
what you want since you may get it only to find that it becomes another
disappointment—or even a source of unhappiness.
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